By Kelvin Ugwu
Thursday 18th April, 2019
I entered the major seminary when I was 20 years old. I spent nine years in studies and was ordained at the age of 29.
I know of someone who was admitted at the age of 30. He studied with us for the same nine years. He was ordained at the age of 39.
My dream of becoming a priest was achieved when I was 29, while another achieved the same dream at the age of 39.
Does it make me more priestly than him? Does it make him more priestly than me? Not at all.
My mother gave birth to me immediately she got married. I have six siblings following me. Among the six siblings are twins. Cute girls like that.
Yet, Cecilia, a relative of ours who got married at the same time as my mum, gave birth to her first child after 15 years of marriage.
Does it make Cecilia less a mother? Not at all!
One of my biggest inspiration always comes from my younger sister, the one following me directly. Right now, she is in her second year in polytechnic. The one she is older than, the third child of the house, just graduated from the University.
Ordinarily, we will often calculate that the eldest should be ahead, whatever we mean by being ahead, I don’t know. My sister does not even see life this way. She believes in herself and her own pace.
In this life, you came alone. Do not think your life must be like the next person. Even my twin sisters, one of them is just entering the University, whereas, her twin is already concluding her IT.
It does not matter at which age you got your own break, your own job, your own child, your own husband, your own wife. It does not even matter if you don’t get the job, or your child, or wife or a husband. . . What matters is that you alone matter, regardless.
I know you will come to church and we will preach in what we may call prophecy saying: This year, all those yet to marry will get married. This year, you will drive your own car… And so on.
The truth is, not everyone will get married. This does not make you incomplete or less human. Not everyone will build a house. This does not make you less blessed.
If you are not careful, you will begin to measure yourself with internet people. Your wedding will not be like that of Banky W, it does not make Banky W more married than your mum that used freshly plucked flowers from the garden the morning of her wedding.
You see, our destinies are different. You may be calculating everything that will happen in your life within a particular time frame, but it may not turn out to be so. Always remember that however things turn out, what matters is you.
As the bible says in Ecclesiastes 9:11
“I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.”
Have a blessed Holy Thursday, and happy feast day to all Priests.